Degrees Of Lying

I am not proud of myself, nor would I promote choices of and participation in such a type of relationship such as the one I am about to describe. I discuss it here nonetheless as it is simply great blog material and a great example of how there can be dregrees of lying, and that the truth can be slowly unfolded, as opposed to frankly put out there.

I was going through a divorce and so jacked up on Prozac at the time that I think that it wasn't so much that I missed the signs, as much as I simply did not care. But I ended up in a realtionship with a man who seemed at the time sincerely convinced of himself and in particular of his particular process of unfolding the truth.

When I met him, I was divorcing and he told me that he had a girlfriend, but that they were in the middle of breaking up. Now, I would normally not get myself involved with someone under these circumstances, but at the time, I did, probably for the sheer distraction and enetertainment value it afforded me at the time.

We dated and became intimate. He took me to him place. I thought there were lots of "things" there that might more likely belong to "a girlfriend" who was closer to living with him than not. He told me that she "did spend more nights there than he had originally led me to beleive," but that they were still definately "breaking up". OK.

One time we were having sex on his bed when I suddenly noticed a pair of black lace panties hanging three inches away from my nose. I asked him about the panties. He admitted that the girlfriend did indeed live with him, but that they were still definately "breaking up". OK.

A few weeks later, I am hanging out at the bar where he works and I see a picture of him and the "girlfriend" and someone makes a comment about "his wife". I ask him about this. He admits that they really are married, and that although this is why he is having such a hard time breaking up with her (duh!), they are defiantely divorcing. RIGHT!

I broke up with him. They are still married. I am sure he is still trying to "break up" with her.

And I am still a very silly goose!