It is a very strange place to be when I find myself equally legally and likely to be able to chose to be with men my age, but also as much older or younger as 20 years or so. However, being with a man who is 20 years my senior makes me feel like I am dating my father, and dating men 20 years my junior makes me feel like I am dating my son. Equally awkward, at best.
Generally I am finding that socially and psychologically I actually prefer men my age. That is, I feel that I find commonality in regards to life experiences, mental attitude, and perspective. We have things in common such as aging parents, career issues, and what is important in life. I am sexually attracted to men my age, too. However, I am finding that actually wanting to have sex with men my age is a bit trying. The good thing is that they have had enough time and experience to know what they are doing and what they like. The bad part is that they have gotten very comfortable with what they are familiar with and can be close-minded and therefore limited.
There is still nothing more sexually appealing to me than the hot, sexy, virile body of a young male, naturally buff and sleek and built for speed. They are the fillet mignon in the feast of sexuality. However, they can be quite silly and I don't feel comfortable having too much conversation with them, as their priorities and perspectives are quite different than mine, and I find the conversations to be sophomoric and numbing. If they can just keep their zippers open and their mouths shut...
When it comes down to attitudes towards sex however, this is what I have run across (and on several occasions, enough for me to have developed a sense of predictability about it):
Men my age generally suck when it comes to sex. They are close minded and inflexible. They will "say" that they want a woman to tell them what she wants, and they "say" that they want to please a woman sexually, but obviously, this is far from the truth. I have found that if I try to tell a man my age what I prefer or want, and if what I want is outside the range of their already established repertoire, they balk. The typical responses I hear include statements such as:
"That is weird, there is something wrong with you!"
"No, I don't do that. I am not into that."
"I don't like being told what to do. I feel like I am following a script!"
Younger men on the other hand are the BOMB! They are so very horny, and so very excited, that they are just grateful beyond belief to be having sex at all. They almost always simply say, "OK!"
Younger men ARE the bomb! They are very open minded, willing to do just about anything, and truly DO want to please. They do not give me a ration of reasons why they couldn't or shouldn't or won't do anything. THEY JUST DO IT.
*sigh* If I could just get over that icky feeling like I am screwing someone who could be my child, I would be all set.
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